W08 FAML300 Beware of Pride

Beware of Pride… I don’t like the saying, but it is true.  I have never before thought of myself as being prideful.  I have (and still do) see myself as a wife that is proud of her husband and a mother who is very proud of her children.  But is that what it speaks of in the scriptures as being prideful?  The truth to the answer is no.

imagesAs I read this week, I learned.  I cried.  And I prayed.  In Drawing Heaven Into your Marriage by Dr. H. Wallace Goddard, he writes “In fact, any time we feel irritated with our spouses, that irritation is not an invitation to call our spouses to repentance but an invitation to call ourselves to repent.  We are irritated because of our own lack of faith and humility.”  This statement had profound effect on me.

I was sitting here, at my desk, reading the material to ponder over what to write for my blog this week when I read the above words.  The instant I read them, I remembered sitting on the couch yesterday afternoon irritated with my husband.  I was irritated that he wasn’t answering me.  I feel that he does this frequently, and that he does this knowing that it irritates me.  Clearly, it is me with the issue.  I am the one irritated by my husband’s natural tendencies.  Maybe he really does not answer me quickly because he wants to irritate me, but who am I to read his mind?

So how do I fix the problem?  As Alma fixed his, as the Publican did, as the people of Mosiah did.  I must repent and turn to Christ and ask for mercy and forgiveness.  I am but Children.1a human and I need Him, Jesus Christ to help me lose my pride.  Pride in thinking that I need an answer now.  Pride believing that I can make my husband answer me.  Perhaps my husband not answering me is my lesson from Heavenly Father in patience which I have yet to learn.  Perhaps this is my big picture lesson so that I can see that I am indeed prideful and I simply need to repent and get over myself.

So, instead of spending hours at the computer today, I intend to finish writing up this blog …get a couple more homework assignments off my plate and go lose myself in service.  I need it.  I need time to quietly reflect and to ask of God to teach me the ways of humility.

Have you had eye opening moments when Heavenly Father has taught you about your own pride?  What did you do to overcome these trials?  Let me know in a comment!

In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.


Helaman 3

Truly a lot of things happen hear in Helaman 3.  I’m going to give a quick run down and then focus on what has spoken to my heart.

  • Nephites were doing well, but some had build up pride
  • Pride grew and got worse, many people left for the land of Desolation
  • People in Desolation became good at building with concrete and grew as a population.  They learned to be industrious and to ship needed items from the land of Nephi up to Desolation to help meet their needs.
  • The Nephites even up in the land of Desolation kept many records of their own lives and the lives of their people.
  • Helaman lead the Nephites in righteousness
  • Gadianton robbers were well established throughout the land, unknowingly to government leaders
  • Thousands baptized into the church
  • Pride fills many hearts in the church and some are persecuted by those that are prideful
  • Helaman dies
  • Helaman’s eldest son Nephi takes the judgement seat and leads in righteousness.

Now, to backtrack just a teeny tiny bit, just prior to Helaman passing away…. as I read verses 27-28, my heart did a little flip and I was filled with the Spirit.  Today, these versesHelaman 3 27 are speaking to me.  They read: “Thus we may see that the Lord is merciful unto all who will, in the sincerity of their hearts, call upon his holy name.  Yea, thus we see that the gate of heaven is open unto all, even to those who will believe on the name of Jesus Christ, who is the Son of God.”  This continued for me again in verse 35 that reads: “Nevertheless they did fast and pray oft, and did wax stronger and stronger in their humility, and firmer and firmer in the faith of Christ, unto the filling their souls with joy and consolation, yea, even to the purifying and the sanctification of their hearts, which sanctification cometh because of their yielding their hearts unto God.”

I don’t know that I have a whole lot more to say… wow.  When you are being oppressed, do you turn yourself more toward Christ in order to have your soul filled with joy and consolation?  During times of affliction do you grow stronger in your faith and humility?  I can hear the apostles speaking now….. so it’s definitely my turn to stop typing.  I do hope that this gives you something to ponder.  Put your self in those shoes and see as these Nephites did.  Grow as they grew.

In the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.


Jacob 2

Jacob 2 continues where Jacob 1 left off; Jacob is denouncing the love of riches, pride and immoral sexual practices.  In verse three, Jacob says that he is “weighed down with much more desire and anxiety of the welfare of your souls.”  Can you imagine having to fill or feel as if you need to fill the shoes of the previous prophet who was beloved?  I can imagine that Jacob was overwhelmed and with the blessings from Heavenly Father that he felt a great burden to ensure that his brothers people, his people, are cared for and have all of the knowledge that they need in order to return to the Celestial Kingdom.

Verse four pretty much lays out a blatant truth and Jacob is straight forward with the people.  He tells them that they are failing to keep the commandments of God which he has shared with them.  He explains to the people that he wants to share glad tidings with them, but because of their behaviors, he has been instructed to share other information instead, which is much less pleasing.  Jacob tells everyone that if they obtain riches that they must part with what they have in excess and share with others, in other words – don’t be greedy and prideful, make sure that everyone has what they need especially if you have more than what you need.  And do not think yourself better than any other person because you have and they have not, humble yourself, as you are a child of God, just as the next person is.  Each person is the same in the eyes of God, so don’t go thinking that you’re better than anyone else.  Lastly, Jacob shares this principle: one man and one woman.  Jacob goes into a bit more detail, specifically telling men to not have more than one wife and to have no concubines.  He even goes so far as to tell the men that they are breaking the hearts of their wives and setting a horrific example to their children by not obeying this law.

I like this chapter, a great “back to the basics” that can be put in to each of our daily lives as reminders to be charitable to those that we can reach and to keep our covenants with Heavenly Father.

I write this in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.


Jacob 1

This week I will begin (and finish) the Book of Jacob, which is the third book chronologically in the Book of Mormon.  I am also using the principle study skill.  As I was sitting waiting oh so patiently at the orthodontist office with my second eldest daughter and my three year old running laps around the waiting room (yes, I’m that mom that lets her child run after a 90 minute car ride) I was able to get some reading in, which is always a good thing that I remember to take my scriptures with me on days like this.

Jacob is one of the younger brothers of Nephi who left with him when the Nephites went their own way to prevent Nephi’s murder.  As this chapter opens, we learn that 55 years had passed since the time that their father Lehi had left Jerusalem at the Lord’s command.  Jacob then explains his purpose in writing on the small plates- a commandment given to him from his older brother Nephi.  I didn’t first see this when I was reading through 1 Nephi or 2 Nephi, but as I am learning, I can now see how this is actually a principle of the gospel.  Jacob says in verse 2 “I should write upon these plates a few of the things which I considered to be most precious; that I should not touch, save it were lightly concerning the history of this people which are called the people of Nephi.” He continues in verse four: “And if there were preaching which was sacred, or revelation which was great, or prophesying, that I should engraven the heads of them upon these plates, and touch upon them as much as it were possible, for Christ’s sake, and for the sake of our people.”  As I was sitting in that orthodontist office lobby, it hit me: this is the same thing that Nephi said.  This is a principle of the gospel.  We should only be sharing those things that are sacred, great revelation and most precious!

Jacob, is a great missionary, along with his brother Joseph, as he says “we”; referring to himself and his younger brother.  Jacob and Joseph preach to the people and “labored diligently” to try and bring Nephites to Christ.  These men understood that it was their duty to share the gospel and to get others to understand that Christ will come and that His blood will be shed for their sins.

In verse nine, Nephi appoints another man to be king in his place and we learn that every man that is to follow Nephi in this seat will also be called Nephi.  A legacy to his name.  Nephi’s mortal life ends in verse twelve.

Jacob shares with us another important gospel principle starting in verse fifteen and continuing through the end of the chapter.  Greed and pride have no place in our hearts. Jacob and Joseph do their best to teach the word of God to those that they can reach through their office as priesthood holders so that they would not be help responsible of the sins of others at the last day.

This wraps up the chapter in two principles.  Chapter 2 has more to bring though, so stay tuned.

I write this in the name if my Savior, Jesus Christ, Amen.